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Father Figure: How to Be a Feminist Dad

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Is a new book by my good friend, and former colleague, Jordan Shapiro. A blurb: 

 

A thoughtful and long-overdue exploration of fatherhood and masculinity in the 21st century that "redefines what it means to be a good father" (Adam Grant).

 

And from the book's website: 

 

Gender norms are changing, and old economic models are facing disruption. As a result, parenthood and family life are undergoing an existential transformation. And yet, the narratives and images of dads available to us are wholly inadequate for this transition. Victorian and Industrial Age tropes about fathers not only dominate the media, but also contour most people's lived experience. Father Figure offers a badly needed update to our collective understanding of fatherhood—and masculinity in general. It teaches dads how to embrace the joys of fathering while guiding them toward an image of manliness for the modern world.

 

This book will be a big hit among the touchy-feely types we have here in the Tavern. Everyone should go out and buy it and read it: if ever there were a group that needs "guiding toward an image of manliness for the modern world," it's this one. Happy reading. :th:

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He brings it up as a joke, but ask yourself, without Belmo, would you have ever known about this garbage?   

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13 mins ago, Heron25 said:

how'd we ever raise kids without books teaching us how to raise kids?

Eggzacktley !

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18 mins ago, JaseB said:

He brings it up as a joke, but ask yourself, without Belmo, would you have ever known about this garbage?   

You mean fwank is not discussing this in the Outpost? 

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21 mins ago, JaseB said:

He brings it up as a joke, but ask yourself, without Belmo, would you have ever known about this garbage?   

This is not a joke. Jordan is a good dude, and a friend. *ly,. 

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18 mins ago, Heron25 said:

how'd we ever raise kids without books teaching us how to raise kids?

Yeah, we have reached the age where parents have to develop a model based on the advice of others, not trusting their own common sense. 

 

Pro-tip: Any description of men that uses "feminist" as a prefix is meant as an insult, suggesting that anyone who is not whatever they want you to be is a Neanderthal. "Feminist Dad" is the perfect example - check your masculinity at the door, act more like a wimin so you kids can learn from having two mommies. 

 

How bad has it gotten that we need this book to advise parents to let their kids go outside, climb trees, take hikes, have acorn fights, etc.? 

 

Read the small print on the cover page: "Without goin nuts with worry" WTF? Parents go nuts letting their kids outside?  

 

Yeah, we need more "feminist dads"...

 

Amazon.com: Free-Range Kids, How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children  (Without Going Nuts with Worry) eBook: Skenazy, Lenore: Kindle Store

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Our parents didn't need this book, we were all "dangerous" on our own, because we were allowed to learn about gravity, physics, fluid dynamics, shoot BB gus, make sling shots, play with fire, cut the lawn and how to play "Army" without a book. 

 

We have four sons who were not kept in the house and learned all that on their own. And, other than that small forest fire, they didn't put their eyes out. 

 

But this book had to be written, because....

 

The Dangerous Book for Boys

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But wait, the boys could not have a dangerous book without feminists having a response, so these two chicks had to write this one

 

The Daring Book for Girls: Buchanan, Andrea J, Peskowitz, Miriam:  9780062208965: Amazon.com: Books

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46 mins ago, Belmo said:

This is not a joke. Jordan is a good dude, and a friend. *ly,. 

“This pandemic has revealed a crisis in American caregiving. I hope Shapiro's fearless book kickstarts a woke dad revolution, because Goddess knows we need one.”―Anya Kamenetz, NPR correspondent and author of The Art of Screen Time

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1 hour ago, Belmo said:

Is a new book by my good friend, and former colleague, Jordan Shapiro. A blurb: 

 

A thoughtful and long-overdue exploration of fatherhood and masculinity in the 21st century that "redefines what it means to be a good father" (Adam Grant).

 

And from the book's website: 

 

Gender norms are changing, and old economic models are facing disruption. As a result, parenthood and family life are undergoing an existential transformation. And yet, the narratives and images of dads available to us are wholly inadequate for this transition. Victorian and Industrial Age tropes about fathers not only dominate the media, but also contour most people's lived experience. Father Figure offers a badly needed update to our collective understanding of fatherhood—and masculinity in general. It teaches dads how to embrace the joys of fathering while guiding them toward an image of manliness for the modern world.

 

This book will be a big hit among the touchy-feely types we have here in the Tavern. Everyone should go out and buy it and read it: if ever there were a group that needs "guiding toward an image of manliness for the modern world," it's this one. Happy reading. :th:

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Usually the people who write this stuff have kids who either hate their guts or grow up to be self medicating, non binary freak shows... usually both. 

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